tzippi:
re:These guys feel frustrated, and deeply feel, because this is how Hashem wired them, a failure for not being able to take care of their families properly. But no one told them they ever would have to.
Males who grew up in two parent households, by and large, saw firsthand- “B’Zayas Apecha Tochal Lechem”. All boys see their fathers providing Parnasa, by the time these boys reach their twenties, and most of them way, way, sooner.
I wholeheartedly agree though that those adjustment years from the time they leave learning until they make money, are often miserable. That’s why it doesn’t hurt to have an educated wife!