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I hear the emotionally charged and hurtful words of BenTorahJew, and suspect that he or close family members of his must have been hurt by the money/support situation linked to Yeshivish Shidduchim.
I feel that the money/support issue IS linked to the Shidduch Crisis in some way, because learning boys who need support, are forced to look among younger girls for Shidduchim (the young rich girls get grabbed up quickest, forcing the boys to look among the newer crop of rich girls), needing a Shver most able to support for the number of years the Bochur desires to learn.
I don’t think anyone here hasn’t heard of cases where the boys’ Roshei Yeshiva tell the boys to marry the girl whose father can support the longest, enabling their Talmidim to learn the longest. While there are some, I’ve heard of much less Roshei Yeshiva who encourage boys to look for girls who are very Mistapek b’Muat or from very Yeshivish homes.
Something to think about!