oomis: your post was exactly the way my mother would put it! someone in my family years ago, once went out with a boy that feel under this category! on a date when it started getting serious he mentioned his condition! the girl practically feel off her seat & was in shock! the boy said he thought she for sure knew about it! the boy bidafka told the shaddchan & he always said he tells the shaddchan before about it! the shaddchan even admitted to knowing this peice of information, yet felt it wasn’t so important to mention! something like this should have been mentioned by the shaddchan!
jaymatt: places like bonei olam & chai lifeline do shidduchim for those that have/had cancer! for the specific reasons, that most girls/boys will not go out with them cause they were sick! as oomis had put it- It is a rachmanus that a young person is chalilah ill, and they deserve the happiness of getting married, just as anybody does. But to fail to inform someone that the boy or girl was once very seriously ill with a potentially life-threatening condition, well, that is just unethical in my book. What if the girl and boy were to really like each other, and THEN find out? Now you have the potential for two…..