to zalman, thanks for your truly good input. As said, I only was “mekatreg” matisjohu because he simply repeated things he ahd heard. It is incumbent upon people to know the mekoros if you want to have an intelligent discussion.
I freely admit that the preponderance of opinions is in your favoir as far as torah shebaal peh for women. this is evident from the Poskim you brought down. However, when yo usee the Perisha (on Tur)you will be surprised at his words. As far as the meaning of ‘tiflus”, look in the Lechem Mishneh that writes that this Rashi (that you qoute) “einoh besifrenu”. In other words this is a disputed rashi. The general impression is that REb Eliezer and the ones who paskened liek him did not trust women with that knowledge (daaton kallos ,etc). I am not going to engage into a debate whether this a correct view, etc. Suffice it to say that the makkilim feel that in today’s society, the place of women ,and their input, has changed. You will not accpet that and thsi is fine too. All I ask is to allow other ipinions without accusing them of heresy.
Will Hill qutes the Aruch Hashulchan, which I know. Will he pasken like him in other matters too? Like- for example, that a woman’s hair TODAY is NOT an ervah? It is easy to be selective. Incidentally, I cherish the Aruch Hashulchan as the best sefer on halacha, if you truly want to understand the whole process fro mthe gemror onwards.
My next posting will deal with women and war, where, I am sorry to say, the mekoros contradict you.