Mrs. Beautiful, if you find yourself giving such guidance to a friend again, please suggest that she not ask a shaila, which is binding, but for an eitza, which is not. Especially since for a shalom bayis issue there is another party involved, and depending on the issue, would have to be with the program too.
I just wanted to add that I appreciate how you think and speak from the heart. I don’t know if we’re on the same page on everything but we may well be on the same chapter 😉