amichai, Honestly, I can really sympathize since I see both sides, from my familiy’s perspective and from my hunsband’s family. I think think that some of my sister in laws enjoy giving the impression that by them everything is rosey and dandy. they dont want anyone knowing that they are going through a hard time, thinking “what can she do for me anyways…, it wont help if she knows or doesnt…”
Its really partly a personality,partly a mentality, or just a diff train of thought. I learnt to live with it, and even sometimes respect it.