ames, that is indeed sad. You learn a lot when you question. You have the “right” to know how/why the Rav came to his conclusion and you learn a lot while he’s explaining it to you. Could be a gender thing, but most people don’t just take a yes/no (unless it’s a simple question perhaps), most discuss and yes, at times, debate until the conclusion is reached. Why would it be disrespectful to ask a rav how he came to his conclusion?
You’ll notice in 99.99999% of SHUT seforim that it’s never just the answer, but the logic and sevarah leading up to the answer. In many cases, that is even more important than the answer.