NYMom; Squeak,
Usually, I don’t enjoy joining the pointless CR debates (it’s like participating in the same play repeatedly, with the unfair rule that everyone needs to keep their roles and can never change costumes :-)).
However, both of you presented important thoughts that I think are more alike than not, with a bit of tweaking.
NYMom, your pain regarding the deteriorating tznius situation is shared by many other women. In the past 2 years, there has been a startling change in the what is perceived as socially acceptable dress.
Squeak, I had shared your exact thought with a family member yesterday. Reading your posting, I wondered if I know you :). I believe that the “culture of tznius” you mention is the only way to turn the tide.
Now…NYMom, you don’t need to word your praise in such a double edged way :), though I lol at your version! Try this: “I LOVE your sweater. When I was shopping the other day, I tried on some that were similar, but couldn’t find one that wasn’t so revealing. Yours is perfect; where did you find it?!”
Or, “How were you able to find such a nice skirt that is loose enough to be tzius? I LOVE that style, but I just couldn’t find something tznius in that style- you’re a great shopper!”
Or, “This is a gorgeous sweater, it really brings out the color of your eyes. It’s sooo tasteful; fitting you properly so it’s not all tight and revealing- I love your taste”.