Hm, AZ, do you mean to say that the Roshei Yeshiva are NOT for chanoch l’naar?
They say that we should encourage close in age shidduchim. They do not say, by any means necessary.
The reason I say that is because it comes back to that:
– it’s a boys’ market and they can make demands, even if demeaning (you said something along those lines). I say, we have to reeducate the boys if they can be so crude.
– you talk about bringing boys back earlier. I say why is it arbitrary, why is our system not geared to bringing the best out of each boy.
I have made it clear that I respect the gedolim and will take this kol korei very, very seriously. It’s just that so many of the auxiliary issues seem to have roots in the OTHER possible issues contributing to the shidduch crisis. I don’t think people should be talked down for bringing up those issues as well, especially when they are such fundamental issues, like the chinuch of our children.