Nobody’s against a good kosher party, the question is what type of party are we talking about, a mini AC or vegas, were the adults are gambling & drinking booze, ignoring the kids as they run around, then having Chana attack her husband in the car
otw home about what a shlemazel (or schlemiel) he is for loosing so much money, etc..
I don’t think that is the spirit of Chanuka. Also as I mentioned earlier,
bochurim have no Chiyuv to be at a different “family” party every night.