Reply To: Tznius Support Group PLEASE WOMEN ONLY, even reading

I agree with you that there is definitely a problem with the availability of fashionable unquestionably tznius outfits. I try only to shop in frum stores, and often I am only wasting my time. Some of the really trendy frum stores have literally nothing to offer me! And in one store, where I do find acceptable clothes, I once told the saleswoman that the outfit I was trying on was unacceptable, because if I raised my arm or even stretched a little, it was revealing, and she just brushed it off.

But I think that there is a reason why these stores carry those kind of clothes. People are buying them! If we all really decided to just NOT buy the questionable clothing that they are offering, it would send the store owners a message! They buy what they think will sell.

I usually say nothing to the store owner, I just walk out without purchasing anything. But maybe if we all just said in a nice way, “Oh well! I really needed a new outfit, but I just can’t find anything that is long enough/not too tight/OK in the tznius dept./appropriate tznius-wise”, whatever…I think if the store owners hear that enough, they would begin to buy more appropriate styles.

Do people really pass comments to you? I am seriously surprised. How do they let you know? I can’t imagine ever saying something, even if I feel what a woman is wearing is inappropriate.