I’ll read this thread more carefully later. I can’t help but think though of a Rabbi Reisman shiur last year on galus, and how “the street” decides certain work etiquette (e.g. shaking hands, holiday parties).
The street’s decided. Women will work, even if the men are working. Most likely they need to just to make ends meet. There is a backlash even in the general world (i.e. the street) for more SAHM but more likely than not, women will work, even if only very part time.
We do need to get our heads on straight though. More to come.