Take 2. This time, please no eating while reading.
Girls dont get dates, because boys are busy collecting lists, not saying yes to a date.
You have 500 boys and 500 girls, the girls are helpless until a boy says “yes i’m interested”, that process takes quite some time because, unless the girl has a quick way to get to the top of the list, she sits around and waits. The guy has 40 names and the girl is on 40 lists. If she is not one of the lucky ones who stand out and get moved to the head of the list, she will stay on the list for a long time. Then when the next grade of girls get put on the lists, you have more girls on lists and the boys figure they have more to choose from.
I believe the tables should be turned. Let the girls collect the names of boys and let them decide who on the list is worth going out with. I dont believe the girls will act the same way as the boys currently do.