You said that you’re looking for a frum but diverse community. There are communities like that but you have to be willing to look into different places and possibly experience a few different places. A few places that I’ve been to that you might consider are: Har Nof or another english-like community around Yerushlayim. Other places are Tzfat-frum and accepting, or also Ramat Beit Shemesh.
Hatzlacha Rabba!