My “Chareidi/Yeshivash? nieces get engaged after 6 dates, and will make a decision about marriage after only 3 dates!!?
I do not understand this at all !!! How does one get to know someone without contact and conversation.
You MUST get past “your best face forward” before you even begin true communication and the sharing of intimate values.
Getting married is scary, it SHOULD be scary, this is an enormous decision to make, but how does one make a decision without information?
AND, so I was told, that once the couple get engaged, their contact is limited, he goes back to learning full term, and she takes care of the wedding. This makes no sense.
If you only get to know your spouse after the Chuppah, what happens when you find out you don’t really like him/his hashkafah/his attitude towards family/his attitude towards his partner, etc, etc, etc.
I have two nieces (amongst many) who have already divorced – how sad and traumatic for them and for all of us.