I understand what Aries is saying very well. I also had a cousin’s son’s wedding a couple of months after my father was niftar. In our case, all of my sibs’ spouses and my husband attended the chasunah, but we siblings opted not to attend with or without a loophole. BTW, I do not judge or condemn anyone who chooses to avail himself or herself of a halachic loophole. it is for you and your rov to discuss, and is not my business. If a rov says it is ok, then that’s the p’sak for that person. For me, it was not what I wanted to try to get a heter to do. Had it been my sister or brothers who were making the simcha, I probably would have felt different. I cannot say, and this is a moot point now, as my parents are gone 15-16 years.
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