How is a single or their parents supposed to try and find a Shidduch if a Shaddchan calls a parent and the parent says that the single is looking for something else than what the single really wants?
I don’t see what the problem is. If the parent tells you one thing and the single tells you another, I feel that you, as the shadchan, have two options:
1. Tell the parents and the child to come up with one set of criteria that they can both agree on (preferred option).
2. Ignore the parents and focus on what the single wants.
Why ignore the parents? Because ultimately, it’s the single who is getting married and has to live with the decision for the rest of his/her life, not the parents. Again, I’m not saying that parents should be disregarded in a shidduch situation, but, when push comes to shove, if the two cannot (or will not) agree, then you have to go with the single’s preferences.
The Wolf