A story that R’ Reisman said a few weeks ago at his Motzei Shabbos shiur.
A talmud once aske Reb Moshe if it was appropriate to ask a potential shidduch to cook him a meal to see what kind of Baala Busta she would be. Reb Moshes’ response was that although halachically acceptable, “es vert Gornished Helfen”. (It wont help you at all).
We are putting priorities on the wrong things!