D”Y tests for I believe 11-13 (not sure of the precise number) of genetic conditions that someone may be carrying, i.e. Tay Sachs, Gaucher’s Disease, etc. They will not tell someone what genes they carry, they will only tell the two parties involved if i.e., #428 and number #957 are genetically compatible(based solely on the genetic markers for which they test, but as I pointed out before, there may be other conditions for which they do NOT test, because they are possibly not life-threatening, or too rare to be cost-effective for testing purposes). My understanding is that they do not want to tell people what conditions they may carry, because it could be very upsetting to know you have a gene for say, Tay Sachs. People tend to forget that carrying a gene is not the same as having a disease. By discouraging kids with certain genetically transmitted ilness from marrying, those conditions can be eradicated completely, and eventually, perhaps even the gene will no longer exist, because every pregnancy carries the possibility that the person is not only free of the diease, but also NOT a carrier. If they are not carriers, they cannot pass that genetic condition onto another child,
even as a carrier.
As to the question of when the girl should meet the boy’s parents or the parents to meet the girl, however you want to express it, I feel that after five or six dates, it would be appropriate, as there clearly seems to be SOMETHING in the works. My daughter actually met her future in-laws VERY soon after she and my son-in-law began dating. it just worked out that way, he had to stop off at his house and she went in with him, when the family was all there. It was love at first sight on all sides, and the rest is history. And yes, we love our son-in-law the same as they love her. B”H.