Wolf: Count yourself out.
In fact both questions you asked were already answered in the CR more than once. The Tosafos in this very thread. Since the question doesn’t bother you to even attempt to look for a answer I won’t bother either.
Here’s a simple rule.
When people really want to know a answer they will search.
If they don’t search they don’t really care.
If they don’t really care, they certainly won’t be part of the solution.
The shidduch crisis WILL be SOLVED when the MASSES are SEARCHING for the answer.
not theorizing, not pitying, not pointing fingers, not posting on the CR but SEARCHING for answers like Shlomo Hamelech writes in Mishlei.
The NASI Project (whose mission I respect greatly and thus spend time in the CR furthering their goals,)
HAS been searching, and their efforts and RESULTS to date speak for themselves
as attested to in this very forum by girls themselves.