Tzippi:
No on is asking anyone to do anything. It is simply a suggestion for girls and their parents. Shadcahnim are hounded by hundreds of people and they are only human.
It’s your choice be one of 500 or be special. Show them you appreciate their efforts, time etc. You will get more attention from them. This is not about bribing anyone, it’s that people will you better if you show them that you appreciate their efforts.
I write this because I know first hand that it works. Girls and their families can either take the advice or leave it, but whats to debate.
If you don’t like it don’t do it.
YW Moderateor-80: with all due respect, this is NOT a bribe, it is appreciation after the fact for time and energy invested.