aries2756: “My kids are B”H married for years,…..but that was the going rate when they were dating and B”H we did not have the need to go to a professional….”
and as such you are in likelihood not in touch with what is going on today….
Jphone: the overwhelming majority of shadchanim have no fees neither up front nor for the completed shidduch.
tomim tihye: today’s is not the same as fifteen years ago. a recent study of girls dating vbetween 5-10 years show over 13% still single….
Oomis1105: so please explain why less then 1% of the people bother to do as you suggest (write so much as a nice card) when their child gets to a third/forth date?? and if you think I’m making it up try speaking to fifty shadchanim….