This is a “zeh vezeh goreim”. Lemashal, a mediocre person has a much easier time getting a job at 4% unemployement than at 10% unemployment. With the inbalance in the shidduch dating numbers, the girls who haven’t found their bashert need to invest effort to figure out what is going wrong, and what they can do to solve it.I’m married because a veteran shadchan pointed out to my wife that her complaints about me were the kind coming from girls 10 years older, meaning the nonsensical issues that help make older singles older singles. Of course there is a shidduch crisis. But many times, there is a reason why the remaining ones are there. Shaya Ostrov writes in his book on shidduchim that many people say they haven’t met the right one. Many times, the right one they haven’t met is themselves. working on oneself can turn mediocre people into good people and good people into great people. Shidduch crisis or no shidduch crisis, I’m not sure why people are opposed to recommending self-improvement to older singles. We have no problem recommending refresher courses and skills improvement to the unemployed. Why not do the same to the unmarried?
Admittedly, it’s much easier to blame the system than to admit that you are human with areas of weakness. That is why what these girls are doing is so courageous and laudable.