Girls might have 100s of dates, but unless even ONE of those 100 boys is an appropriate shidduch for that particular girl, it won’t work. Also, and let’s be honest here, even if she goes out with 100 and LIKES them all, THEY have to like her, too. I know lovely girls, really sweet, pretty, charming, intelligent, but the guys they liked from their several shidduchim, did not give THEM a second or third chance. The girls, on the other hand, went out with boys who were “iffy” to them after the first date, and did in fact give them a second and even third date, to be certain of their decision to not go forward. Metaphorically speaking, it always takes two to tango, and if one of the partners refuses to continue to dance, the other one cannot get out on the floor.
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