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I find this part to be troubling, should parents be choosing a mate for their children? I don’t have a problem with parents finding their children dates but that’s a far cry from choosing a mate for them.
ydkm: I think you might be misinterpreting a bit. You have no problem with parents finding dates for their children. Why are they finding dates? To go to a movie and have good time? Or are they choosing dates to be a potential mate for their children? Therefore, shouldn’t the parents think “is this a good spouse for my child”?