I can only try
wow you’re humble and honest too, hope your spouse appreceates.
although you can ask why on a lot of things, this is one thing that hashem says test me! so it’s very hard to understand why he’s failing his test?
also when i test you, and you fail i get something, when hashem says test me what do we get if he does fail?
as far as ask a rav why it appears the bracha doesn’t work, i have and they doin’t have an answer, the aruch hashulchan says he doesn’t know why it doesn’t work as well.