After reading some of the posts above it seems that the topic here is insensitive comments to difficult situations. I have a story which was not a difficult situation, rather, an uncomfortable one in which i’ve learned a lesson.
I was redding a shidduch for a relative of mine. This relative’s mother told me to find out what the other side said first and then they’d look into it if it was nogeiah. Fine, i was a bit nervous as i was dealing with family (actually it was a relative of my then new husband).
The other side said it wasnt for them. I called back this relative and told them the other side doesnt think its basherte (dont remeber my esact words). This relative’s mother says
have you ever redd a shidduch before?
I said “I’ve set up a only a couple of people”
She said “i can tell” and hung up the phone!
Being new to teh family made this situation even harder and i wondered why i even tried! With the whole shidduch crisis, i would imagine that prospective parents could be a bit more sensitive to the shadchans feelings!!
Ever since then, I dont redd shidduchim as much as i’d like to…or should i say, it takes me too much time to build up the courage to work on a shidduch…