As it happens, we were out last night with another couple. He and I talked of about 10 minutes, and the two Mrs talked for the better part of 2 hours, with the two of us just nodding or yes / no-ing when asked for our input.
On the way home, Mrs BP says she had a great time (and I’m wondering how I was of any help towards this fun), but that is the cost of a good realtionship. Not always talking.. sometimes just listening. And yes it takes time, but worth every minute