mosherose, of course you’re allowed to make “silly talk” with your future spouse. In fact, before he started dating, my husband asked his rav (a well-known rosh yeshiva) about talk and dating in general. His rav wisely told him that the first couple of dates should definitely be laid-back, not talking “tachlis,” more shmoozing, because after all, for most of your married life you talk about regular, everyday occurrences and other so-called “silly talk.” We’ve been married for quite a few years now and of course that’s true – we don’t spend our time discussing Torah (well, sometimes, but it’s definitely not a big part of our communication) or learning together. Most people don’t!
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