Bas Melech, I don’t want to disappoint you, but 5 years is not so hard because the family doesn’t get too large in 5 years, meaning less expenses and less work from the woman’s side.
My husband also learned approximately that long and then it was still simple.
The very big nisoyon comes around when one has 3 or more children.
Every girl has to make this decision. If she’s ready to work past that or if she’s only ready to work and give up on extra expenses as long as it’s not very difficult.
I find, that girls today “WANT” learning husbands, but they’re missing the real understanding of what that means. Once it gets harder than just “not easy”, they kvetch around all day to their friends until their husband finds a job.
Don’t fool yourself!