“Unfortunately i myself know of a few, that ended up … well lets just say NOT VERY GOOD “
I guess you go to very different events than my kids do.
Max Well – I guess we will have to agree to disagree. I don’t think it is very wise for any boy and girl to be making such a strong emotional investment after only one or two dates (at which time, parents who see the potential relationship beginning to develop can make their inquiries). If something comes up at this time that raises red flags, it is very early on. The same red flags can occur in the shidduch method where checking was done prior to going forward with setting the couple up. People who want to hide things are very good at doing so until they can no longer be kept secret. Sometimes, the couple finds these things out AFTER the wedding R”L, when it REALLY is too late, and the result is far worse heartbreak when a GET needs to be given. That can happen to ANYONE, regardless of how they met each other. Just look at the soaring divorce rate among the present generation of young marrieds, some as soon as three months after the wedding.