sephardic.chabadnick: I really dont think I can give you much practical help, but one thing that might be of help to you is to contact a Rabbi even out of your city. Maybe even one across the globe. It seems to me that often, people in (for lack of a better word) “leading” positions, often have many contacts which might be of help to you. Basically what I’m saying is that wherever you feel comfortable doing so, get the word out that you need help in this area. Dont give up because people dont seem interested. Hashem is running things, no one else.
I can only imagine what pleasure you are giving to Hashem by going out so far for your daughter.