AZ- I mentioned a solution earlier in the thread ill repost it here.- The chairs are there in the other room just not e/o sees it/wants to see it. These chairs are the chipped and shabby chairs but are still strong and standing straight. (meaning ppl think they are “damaged goods” and don’t want to consider them, but in reality they are very good chairs)
That could be a contributing factor. I personally know s/o who went out with s/o and said no for a stupid reason, and a few years later went out again and are married now. SOmetimes you have to overlook certain things. The theory with the age gap may be another factor- but i don’t think its a strong reason whats causing the problem.