Midwest very true, i agree to everything.
i do have one more point. did anyone mention that beemes, it’s “easier” to be a “top” girl than a “top” boy? lemaasa, a girl has to be a yarei shamayim, and a baalas midos (geshikt…ok whatever) a boy needs to be a yarei shamayim, baal midos AND a shtarka learner, a budding talmid chachom. That’s an extra and it’s much harder ???. The girl doesn’t have to sit over a gemara for four hours streight and need the discipline to do so to be considered a good girl. She doesn’t have to wake up on time for minyan at zman krias shma, (only zman tefilla) and stay up late after night seder learning. there are extra pressures on boys than on girls. Thereby, there are fewer “good” boys than “good” girls.