Haros, the problem could stem from the shock of it all. Those who you would think are not capable of sinking to that low level is so shocking that it challenges our bitachon. If we lose our level of bitachon, even just going down a step or two we lose our sense of security and balance and that can cause pure and utter panic.
I was speaking last week to a young man( 22) who is a recovering drug addict. He was telling me how he is working hard to be shomer Torah and Mitzvos and then he was telling me about his girlfriends and his conquests. I finally told him “You said you wanted to find the right girl and get married soon. Why don’t you start respecting your future wife and stop adding more ghosts that you will eventually bring into your marriage? You know eventually you will have to come clean and tell her all about this?” And then there was silence. About ten seconds later he said to me, “you just laid some heavy stuff on me. Your right, I’m so stupid. Why am i doing this it is meaningless? Wow thats really heavy”
Kids today are not being trained how to think about their futures. They are not taught about what hormones are doing to their bodies and how to cope with it, all they are told is what is assur and what is evil. They are also not told about the beauty of marriage and going into it pure and innocent and why that is important in order to have the most intimate and special relationship with their future spouse.