“Tell me, why would they “change the status to dating” if they felt no attraction to each other?”
Because,M13, they looked at each other one day and realized the relationship had undergone a subtle change. You clearly did not read or understand my post. I thought I was pretty clear on the subject. There was no attraction when they first became friends, but after many months of friendship of really getting to know each other through long conversations and time spent together in a non-pressurized way, they realized there was substantially more to the relationship. Why you seem to feel this is a BAD thing, I cannot for the life of me figure out.
Don’t we WANT our children to marry people with whom they feel a comfortable close friendship as well as attraction? Why on earth do you keep harping on this? I am not involved in this particular fruitless debate anymore. It is truly pointless.