“Marriage is not friendship.
Sorry to break it to you, the reason unfortunately yeshivish people divorce today is NOT because of the shidduch system. There are many reasons but the shidduch system has worked for generations and generations, maybe even in a more tznius fashion.”
If your first sentence is correct, would you kindly explain to me the meaning of sameach tisamach RAYIM ahuvim? We say it in the sheva brachos. Your marriage partner is your BEST friend, the one person you should be able to count on above all others.
And I happen to disagree with you very strongly. Every single person I know who has divorced after a short marriage has said to me that they did not feel they had nearly sufficient time to get to know the boy or girl, because the shidduch system pushed them along too quickly, and since everything looked good “on paper,” and the parents were eager for the learning boy or the girl with a good job,they took the chance. After they got married and realized what they really had gotten themselves into, they were very disillusioned by the reality of married life to someone about whom they really knew very little, other than the facts that were good on paper. The shidduch system as we know it is NOT working well at all. Never have there been so many single frum boys and girls. We do not live in the shtetl anymore, and what was accepted then is not acceptable to many now. Take off your rosy glasses and really look around at how many FRUM kids in their late twenties and thirties are not married.