myfriend, the “so called frum girls” were judged and anyone else who considers themselves frum but are not on the highest madreigah of tznius as deemed by the people here on this thread. That is who is being judged by the people posting to this thread during Aseres Yimei Teshuva. Can I make it clearer than that?
If you started a thread about Shabbos, why would you need to mention that driving on Shabbos is assur? That is a given and it is well known. There are no shades of grey in that area unless of course there is an emergency or someone is having a baby and they are rushing to the hospital. OH but then you would be misjudging them if in your post you said “I saw a so-called frum jew driving his car on Shabbos” You see, it is not up to you to speak about it. The same principle applies here as well. It is your job to “dan people l’kaf zchus” especially your fellow jews and not speak loshon horah about them. even if you don’t use their name you are still besmirching your fellow jews.
Putting on lipstick and mascara is also assur on Shabbos but I see a lot of women who are definitely wearing fresh lipstick on Shabbos. Is it my place to go over and tell them that they are not allowed to do that? Absolutely not! Because for one thing it is not my business. For another thing, maybe they really didn’t learn it or didn’t apply what they learned to this issue, make-up. And thirdly, if I told them and they continued to do it, it is even a worse aveirah and I don’t want to be a part of that. Here is another example. I have been to the manicure spa many times when I have seen frum women in a rush get their hands and feet done at the same time by two different technicians. Now I was taught (yes in Kallah class by a very machmir teacher) that two people are not allowed to work on you at the same time, it is assur. Only in the case of a niftar or nifteres is more than one person allowed to work on them. That is why you might hear a parent reprimand if they are buttoning a child’s coat not to help them, only one person should do it. So back to my example, when the ladies want to rush me out and come at me two at a time I tell them I am not dead yet and only one of them can work on me at a time. They remember that when I come in but they ask me why the other religious ladies don’t say that to them. Is it my job to tell the other ladies they are wrong? Maybe they were never told what I was told. My mother would say “zei nisht gut’s farzorger”.