Yanky55 and minyangal, anyone who weathered the storm past 20 years and had to bail because of abuse or fear of “death by marriage” did not choose to divorce lightly or go into marriage thinking it was disposable. When dealing with a selfish spouse who refuses to be a partner to marriage rather a dictator and there is no way to make a marriage work after trying for so long, as I said you either make your marriage work or make your divorce work for the sake of the kids. You both sound like you made your divorce work for your own sake and the sake of the kids.
Although minyan girls seems to be happy, Yanky still seems to believe that you can have only one bashert in a life time and it was his lot in life to be married to “that” one that caused him so much tzar. I don’t agree with you Yanky and I am not Breslov so I don’t believe in suffering in this world so one can have a sweeter olam habah. I believe that Hashem has a zivig for you somewhere out there that will complement your lifestyle. Someone that will be your other half and make you whole. Someone that will be the ying to your yang if you get my drift. I believe that you are doing yourself a disservice by not looking for her. I also believe that your children will be much happier when you are happier. They love you and they want to see you healthy and happy and they want to see you a whole human being again. They would even dance at your wedding with glee and excitement at this point.