Reply To: Weddings – How do you split the costs

If it is 50/50 at the wedding expenses, it should be 50/50 after the wedding too. What is important is to be specific of what your likes or dislikes are. One of my friends ended up footing the whole bill even though it was discussed as 50/50. The girls parents claimed that for them a cheaper hall would have been good enough. After the first child they(boys) side was still footing most of the bill.But guess where the couple spent most of Yom Tov family time, yes at the girls side. This happens very often. The money side may work out but family time is “busting time” for many from the boys side. Yes, when you confront your son he will say “for the sake of Shalom Bayis”. So whatever the arrangements, be specific of what type of hall, flowers, photos, etc. Don’t go for “we’ll work it out” which sounds good when finalizing the shidduch but may spell aggravation afterwards.