mw13: I don’t know the answer. If I did, I’d have stated it upfront.
smartcookie:
A. if the reason is to work on our middos, it does not follow that we should marry someone with good middos. If anything, someone with bad middos will annoy us more and give us opportunity to work on our middos.
B. That may be the reason G-d created marriage. I don’t think that is why people get married.
Sacrilege:
I think there could be motives which are selfish and are still G rated. If the conversation was not G rated, it would be a big problem as well.