popa_bar_abba:
1) Why are you allowed to attend a “Conservative” wedding, performed by a “rabbi” who is not a “rabbi,” (and especially if it’s a gay or woman “rabbi”), where a double-ring ceremony is not a Jewish ceremony, and there is mixed seating and immodest dress and men and women dancing together to non-Jewish music), etc.) ?
“Conservative” is not Judaism, any more than “Reform” is; they both incorporate violations of the Torah into their “religion.”
2) Of course you can’t attend an intermarriage. Intermarriage is a violation of the Torah.
5) Tznius is a Mitzvah, just as keeping Kosher is a Mitzvah, and and keeping Shabbos is a Mitzvah. If the Frum relatives (the BT and his/her FFB spouse) will ask the non-Frum relatives to come to a Seudas Mitzvah, dressed according to the laws of Tznius; then the non-Frum women relatives should not show up at the Seudas Mitzvah, wearing a sleeveless or strapless short dress, above the knees, or pants.
I’m not saying that that BT’s will do something that is Assur.
I’m asking if BT’s who want to marry FFB’s, will not, after the wedding, participate with the non-Frum family in things that the non-Frum family are doing, that are Assur by the Torah.
Please also read the posts by oomis1105 to see what I’m talking about. Many times, there is pressure by the non-Frum family to participate with them in events that are Assur; otherwise, the BT and his/her FFB spouse are considered “religious fanatics.” This is something that an FFB with Frum family on both sides of the family doesn’t have to deal with. Can the BT resist this pressure?
Obviously, I’m not making myself completely clear.
Is there someone else who has been following this thread, who can explain better than I’m doing, to popa_bar_abba, what I’m talking about?
Thank you, Health, for the additional clarifying comments. I greatly appreciate them.