“Health: I find troubling the assumption that BTs don’t keep halacha and don’t ask shaalos. This represents a very xenophobic view.”
Nobody said that BT’s, as a group, don’t keep Halacha and don’t ask Shaalos.
But some BT’s may find it difficult not to continue to participate with the “Simchas” of the non-Frum family.
I know of a case of an FFB who is married to a BT who is “Modern Orthodox” Frum; but he still wants to attend the “Simchas” of the Reform non-Frum family, even if he doesn’t participate in them.
The BT’s mother is also a BT, and she davens in a Young Israel and even wears a short Sheitel; yet, when 2 of her nephews R”L married non-Jewesses, she attended the weddings, because “it’s family; it’s my brothers’ children.”
This is very troubling to the FFB spouse.