of course, someone mature enough to be out on a shidduch date is mature enough to know if he/she wants to see this person again (for whatever hashkafic reason you subscribe to) and should be trusted to be allowed to say “I am interested in continuing further, you?”. If neither party is mature enough to face reality thjat either the other party is not interested in pursuing anything further or is not mature enough to answer truthfully, they should not be allowed to be out for shidduchim.
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