BP:
I agree with the compulsion issue. You’re preaching to the choir on that one.
At the same time, I respect the rights of adults to decide what sort of life they will lead.
I think often people forget that the wives deliberately chose this life, and would never have even consented to date this guy unless he was committing to this life.
Also, while I have much respect for working people who also learn, I don’t think it is fair to ask why someone would want more than that. As wonderful as learning 2-3 hours a say is, learning 10-11 is that much more wonderful.