Something is horribly wrong, because that person does not understand the value of life. Let me give you 2 examples:
Story 1 – A famous rov (can’t recall who) was once very ill, and the doctor suggested painful procedure, but made it sound like it almost did’nt pay to do it, beause “the paitent would not make a full recovery anyways”.
To which the rebbitzin said, How much time would it add? Doctor says, 6 months, at best. She says, 6 months! I’d do it if it would only add 6 days! (Because she understood the value of another day of learing, another day of davening)
Story 2 – My grandmother lived to see 100+, and the last 6 months, she was totally out of touch with her surroundings. In the last few days, she was so weak, she could not even lift the food or drink off her plate, so we had to spoon feed her. During one of my turns, I thought to myself, she made it trhu 2 world wars, built, lost and rebuilt a family and home, made it with general good health till way into her 90’s. What’s the purpose of these last few months, when she is totally dependent on others and cannot function at all?
Then it dawned on me. The purpose was to give US the opportunity to have the zechus of taking care of her. And by giving us that chance, she enabled us the chance to be givers, not takers.
So, you are right. Just because a person makes it to x age, does not mean they are expendable. (Sorry you had to hear the poor comment, but at least you know you’re on the right mind-set)