Smartz, our frum society has produced psychotic, neurotic and downright crazy people. Why do we have to put a number, and age and a time limit on when things need to happen. The Brocha I give young people and I give to you as well is “The right one at the right time!”
Do you know how many divorces are happening in our society right now? Do you know how many young marriages have broken up because of this rush to the chupah ready or not? Do you know why? Because they are marrying for the wrong reasons. They are not looking for their bashert and they are not looking for the right qualities and values in a partner. Everything is crazy and screwed up!!!
You are a smart young woman and your Bashert is out there looking for you. And B”H OUR society is not in charge, Hashem is in charge and he will make sure the two of you find each other. But you have to do your histadlus. You have to daven, you have to give tzedaka, do chesed and do whatever you can to have faith, emunah and bitachon in the right people or should I say non-people. You need to put your faith, emunah and bitachon in Hashem and recognize the shelichim he sends your way. Make sure that you don’t turn away possible prospect because of foolishness such as height, weight, etc. Take a good look at the qualities and values of the prospects that Hashem is sending in your direction before you turn someone down.