just wana point out. There are many places in chazal and the gemara where it says they did things which seem strange to us, and are assur for us to do. Ex: yaakov avinu kissed rochel by the well, yaakov married 2 sisters… the whole story with the 600 remaining men from Shevet Binyamin who each grabbed a girl from the vineyards of Yosef. (this is SEPARATE FROM TU B’AV)
IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT TODAY IT IS MUTAR. We don’t paskin streight out of the pshat of the Torah, Mishna or Gemara.
Yes Yaakov avinu kissed Rochel but does it mean that any man can kiss any women? Does it mean that one doesn’t have to be shomer negia? does it mean one man can marry 2 wives does it mean that that’s how to make shidduchim today? C’MON!