Aries2756: I feel for you, and I understand exactly how you feel. You seem like a real sincere and compassionate person. I think it would be a good idea for you to seek out one of the sincere and good hearted rabbanim out there, and make him your Rav. This way you can shelter yourself by surrounding yourself with the good; and you will learn to ignore the bad [to the best of your ability], and leave it for Hashem to worry about.
Just keep in mind that Hashem runs the world; so therefore: 1. Nobody suffers if it is not Hashem’s will, and 2. There will be a Dim V’cheshbon in shamayim for any aggression committed in this world, regardless of their stature.