If you are planning to have more than 200 people, then anywhere that you have it will be expensive. I don’t think that you could have a treif wedding just serving bologna for that number of people that wouldn’t cost an arm and a leg. Weddings should be for family and close friends – 100 – 150 people is more than enough to have at a wedding. I sometimes think that many invited guests feel resentful at having been invited with the price of gifts these days. I know that when I am invited I cannot give a gift that is less than what they are paying to have me there. It can become a vicious circle when acquaintances become part of the guest list. Just because you were my neighbor 20 years ago and I occasionally run into you at the grocery does not mean that you are obligated to invite me to your simcha. Similarly, I don’t want to be obligated to come to your simcha. Keep it small and simple.
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